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Everyone wants to become the best version of themselves, but few actually do it. Why? Because we’re our own worst enemies when it comes to achieving success, chasing our dreams, and living a life that’s filled with passion and purpose.

Some of us are self-destructive without realizing it, and others are conscious of the fact, but lack the tools and/or knowledge in order to improve. But no matter who you are, there are 6 main habits that continually get in people’s way of becoming a success.

Eliminate these 6 habits and become the best version of yourself.

1. Stop the negative self-talk

2. Stop criticizing and judging others

3. Stop the fear of failure

4. Stop the fear of success

5. Stop people pleasing

6. Stop procrastination

Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later. – Og Mandino

1. Plan
2. Get Up Early
3. Unplug
4. Exercise
5. Socialize
6. Follow Passions & Hobbies
7. Embrace Downtime & Reflect
8. Prepare For The Week Ahead

Monday mornings can be an incredibly stressful time. But if you’ve used your weekend wisely, and you take some time Sunday night to analyze all the errands and jobs you need to do throughout the week, let alone done at least something of the other 7 activities above… then you can wake up on Monday feeling ready to take on whatever gets thrown at you.

“It’s not the plan that’s important, it’s the planning.” – Dr. Gramme Edwards

The initial excitement you felt fades away. What you had been working on seems to become harder and harder to capture and by the time you actually have the time to get back to your dreams and goals you are lacking the push, the urge and the motivation… You find yourself creating excuses. Days and then weeks go by. Those ambitious goals you dreamed up are nothing but far-off fantasies dancing around in your head. You feel guilty for not following through, and you say to yourself:

• I’ll never be able to stick to my goals.
• I don’t push myself hard enough.
• I need to stop being so lazy.
• I’m a failure.

I must ask you this: If you are lacking in motivation, drive and push to chase those dreams and to make them happen – are these really your priority? And secondly, are they your priority dreams. You see – if you are passionate about something, when it comes to time management and how you spend the available time you have, this reflects your priorities. Yes I know it can be easier to just relax, but relaxing should be scheduled and not unexpected. If you have some spare and real usable time – wouldn’t you want to be using this to find the greater you and to make those dreams a reality?

So in my books, the reason why you are saying these things to yourself (as listed above) is because:

• You have bigger priorities
• You’re just not that passionate about it
• You lack the self-discipline
• You have no motivation to move forward towards these goals

So maybe you need to redefine your dreams, redefine your priorities and identify what it is you would love to do and chase. 

You need to make your own stand, your own ground or impact. No one else is going to do it for you simply more so because they are making their own. They may encourage, inspire or motivate you to do it, however you are ultimately the one who is responsible to make things happen. What are you waiting for?

“I believe ardently that you should drop everything and run toward your true self.” – Kyran Pittman

Don’t limit it down to the reasons of why you can’t do this or do that – but identify the reasons why can and why you should. We all have something worth saying, doing and standing up for. It could be as simple as being a pro ice skater or even being a high-end landscaper. The point is – whatever it is you want to do, be or create. Don’t be bound by the limitations, but be launched by the reasons of why you want it to happen. If you believe in yourself and have the courage enough to go for it – well then you will find success regardless. It will just take the time and growth to get you there.

Here are some small motivators/challengers to help boost your confidence and keep you on track on your mission to greatness.

• If you never try, you’ll never know.

• It’s about the journey just as much as the destination.

• It’s possible to fail at something you don’t want, so why not go after what you do want?

• Forcing yourself to do something you don’t want to do will only result in unhappiness.

• You may fail a thousand times, but you’ll be that much smarter.

• When you do achieve your goal, you can silently laugh at all the haters.

Failure is a negative thing, by definition. The opportunity to learn is good, but it is by no means exclusive to failing. If you’re going to fail, you should learn from it. That’s the only context in which it is “good.” People who are searching for advice also need to stop viewing advice as their potential silver bullets. There is no silver bullet, so get to work.

“A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him.” –David Brinkley

It may be a little clichéd but perfecting and practicing is the key to crafting success. As the saying goes – practice makes perfect. While at the same time:

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” – Jim Ryuh

The problem is we encounter some very common boulders through life which limit our ability to succeed with achieving our dreams. Bad habits. In this case there is one in particular which is literally a time killer if not followed. Now because time is limited and bound by the buckets we create – you should use it wisely.

A Lack Of Discipline

Whether you want to acknowledge it or not, time is our most precious and limited resource. There are only 24 hours in one day. Unfortunately, there are no guarantees that you’ll wake up tomorrow. Sleeping and waking up at the same time everyday is good for your body and helpful in setting a disciplined, daily routine. Besides being strict about when you wake up and go to bed, it’s also important to be protective of your time. A great tactic to do this is to designate a few days or specific hours throughout the week for “success time.”  These are blocks of time where you only focus on doing things that contribute to your personal goals and dreams, whether it’s learning a new language or working on a side business. By setting aside your “success time,” you’ll be able to focus on the things that matter most to you and will be less tempted to say “yes” to last-minute social invitations or distractions that can get in your way. You also have to be able to say “no” to committing to things that don’t interest or benefit you. Remember, the few hours you spend doing something you’re not that into are hours that you could have spent learning or growing yourself.

Yesterday I noted that you should be You Should Be Stubborn & Flexible When Chasing Your Goals.

Being stubborn about your goals, will give you the discipline and commitment you need! Stubborn is one thing, but being flexible is another. Be flexible with your goals. Stubborn enough to stay committed and not give in to being lazy and not working forward. However, you need to be flexible in how you get there. Sometimes, there will be obstacles, delays and challenges that will require you to move forward in a different way. Just because there is an obstacle, doesn’t mean you cannot still progress. Maybe you will have set backs, maybe it will just take longer and maybe different opportunities will come… regardless be flexible, but be committed!

If you’re not willing to be disciplined, tough and tight when it comes to managing and fixing your time to help you grow and get to the next level – then you may be stuck for a while.

Blockages are tricky to handle. We really cannot ignore them. If we do, our inner voice will demand our attention. We also need to realize that many of our inner challenges can’t be easily solved with an affirmation or visualization. They take a concerted effort and some time to heal and repair. What’s needed is a strategy so that we can move forward. So what can we do? I think the easiest way to handle blockages is to treat them as long-term companions in our lives. And give them their due. One way is to write in a journal every day in the morning and the evening. The amount of time doesn’t have to be great. By giving attention to the part of you that needs healing you are then freer to move forward. And you will feel better about yourself and therefore do better as a result.

– Maria Hill: (Simple steps to move forward)

Avoid pushing yourself too hard and too fast. By accepting limitations, you actually stand a better chance of success because you are not fighting yourself.

Be prepared for and accept obstacles as important information. Sometime obstacles occur because of details that we need to pay attention to. We may not notice when we are going too fast or when we need to take a step back because we have missed something important.

See the 6 Ways To Get To A Greater You:

Never Take “NO” for an Answer

• When chasing your dreams and a greater you, taking no as your end game is never going to cut it. When you reach out for assistance from people, and they turn you down, do not take their response to your requests as a determinant factor to your success.

Work like You’re Going to Retire Tomorrow

• You know one thing about retirement? It makes us want to work harder to save more. Successful individuals find fun and joy in hard work. So they never get tired. And when success finally comes, they’re just well-prepared for it.

A Mentor

• If you want to be successful, then you should have a successful role model whose experience will guide your career and path. This means you need someone who is successful and is willing to share their experiences with you.

Copy the Best (Learn)

• See what the best of the best are doing and see if you can do it just as good if not better yourself. If it is working for them, it is bound to work for you.

Be Humble and Stay Hungry

• You know what kills success and greatness very fast? The big egos of their top executives. Learn to espouse humility and always stay hungry as Steve Jobs always said. He was actually fired from the company he later came back to and saved! By staying hungry, you’ll be willing to learn new things that could come in handy in the future. Not staying hungry breeds complacency and conceit in entrepreneurs. The moment you become complacent, you allow others to overtake you and leave you behind.

Love Yourself

• If you can love yourself and I mean really love yourself and respect yourself – you will make it. You need to give yourself all the love you can afford. Most people won’t care about your feelings. Everybody is busy trying to win, so stop worrying about pleasing others and start loving yourself!