Too many times and usually before we even notice, we tend to get in our own way. Mistakes or not; we are victims of our own creations of fears and limitations that hold us back, or hold us down. We may not do this intentionally. It’s just that we’re all doing the best we can in this beautiful, messy, complicated world.
There are so many circumstances or experiences that can get in the way of our growth which limit our creativity and our lives.
“Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.” ~Marianne Williamson
Here are 3 mistakes we are commonly known to make – and what you can do about it:
Mistake #1: Not Taking Your Instincts Seriously
Have you ever said “I’m fine” when inside you were hurt or afraid? Or said “It’s not a big deal” when, in fact, it was consuming your every waking thought (and likely your dreams)? Yeah, don’t do that. It matters that you have a dream to start a business. It matters that you want more than what everyone else is settling for. It matters that you are upset or unsettled or craving expansion in your life.It matters because those things are signs that you are not on the right track, signs that something is out there calling your name, signs that you’re ready to discover and devour it.
And those signs should always be taken seriously. Listen to where your inner voice. It’s there for a reason.
Mistake #2: Not Creating Space for Growth
Growth requires space—actual physical space, as well as space in your schedule. If you think it’s selfish to create time for you—to chase a dream, to process an emotion, to rest and reconnect—you’re not seeing one very important fact: You can’t give to others what you don’t have, and you don’t have what you don’t take the time to give to yourself. Make the things that matter—such as self-care, compassion, and authenticity—priorities, and you’ll find you have the time and energy to create the life you visualize.
Mistake #3: Labeling Your Efforts
Any time you start something big or life-changing with labels like “not good enough” or “stupid,” you shut down your growth before you’ve even begun. Attitude is important! Because how can someone who is stupid or not good enough possibly do anything worthwhile? But you’re not stupid, and you efforts are good enough. You have to let go of the labels and approach your experience with an open mind and heart.
If you’re struggling with this one, hold on to one truth: Each and every person was born pure, whole, and open to growth and learning.
I want to leave you with these few questions:
- What is holding you back? Actions, commitments?
- What are your beliefs about yourself and what you can do? Are they positive or negative?
- What things are holding you back from venturing into life? Is it the lack of action? The struggle of commitments?