We all have fears, there is no doubt about it. It really just comes down to how we manage and handle these fears…
People are confident; some are too confident, some are confident enough, while others are lacking.
Face your Fears
The process is straightforward.
- Find the area in which you lack confidence.
- Force yourself to repeat this act again and again until the nerves subside and you begin to relax.
So if you lack confidence when talking to people you find attractive then make as many approaches as possible.
If you lack confidence speaking in front of an audience then sign yourself up for a speaking group and get practicing every week.
And if you lack confidence in your creative work (writing, painting, making music etc) then put it in front of other people and let them give you their feedback.
Do the thing you fear again and again until you fear it no more.
The good news is that this really works.
The bad news is that you’re going to have to DO some work.
Throughout childhood, adolescence and adulthood, you’ll attempt certain activities and receive an emotional evaluation on how you did. If the response you receive is ridicule, rejection or failure, the unpleasant feelings you experience, depending on their severity, will warn you away from partaking in that activity again.
Frequency makes all the difference and the more often you face your fears, the weaker the negative response will be.
This all applies the same for your dreams and goals. You keep pushing, you keep giving it a go and as you keep failing and trying again, you will succeed.
So today when you first don’t succeed, today when you don’t feel confident. Do it again. Learn, adapt and grow.
Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. – Thomas A. Edison