Category: ENCOURAGE

I choose dreams.

When it comes to seeking out our dreams and actually reaching our end game and actuating them, doubt has a tendency to overwhelm our minds and belittle our chances at creating our dreams into a reality. Doubt itself supersedes failure, as doubt limits your ability to even try in the first place… essentially failing to even start. At least with failure, you can bounce back with your lessons learned. 

Let me remind you that if we can bounce back from the many failures we have and will encounter, then we shouldn’t have a problem defeating doubt. 

But why does it always seem harder to defeat doubt then failure? 

The reason why is because there is a psychological component in which when we doubt, we actually believe it and that’s the reaction our brain takes… In other words, thinking becomes a substitute for doing. Meaning – when we actually go to do it, the brain has already made the decision that we cannot or we wont – so we lose any drive, motivation or focus on that particular action. So the doubt literally overwhelms our ability to step out and create or be something more than before. Funnily enough, doubt kills any belief in ourselves, but it is the doubt that make’s us believe we can’t achieve. 

Stop doubting your potential. Just start your dream and if you fail, you can always bounce back harder.

As you proceed to tread your path and kick your goals, obstacles will appear. The best thing about obstacles are they are designed to be conquered and to be overcome. As you learn to defeat more and more obstacles you will increase your:

• Confidence
• Skills
• Maturity in wisdom.

You just need to make sure you don’t doubt your ability to actually do it, let alone attempt. 

Accept yourself for who you are

 Until you accept yourself you will never cultivate genuine happiness. 

Believe in yourself

Believe in yourself. You are capable of accomplishing amazing things. 

Compassion is a gift you should give

Think of it this way – if you were in the need of something, or even desperate for a need. How would you feel if someone gave compassion and support to you?

Dedicate yourself to something noble and worthy

Dedicate yourself to something noble and worthy. Integrity is a good one!

Elation should not be hidden

Don’t hold back in the joy you feel when you are surrounded by people you love. Demonstrate and enjoy the happiness as much as possible!

Forgive yourself and others

We all make mistakes. Forgive others & forgive yourself.

Gratitude should be expressed

Show gratitude to strangers or to anyone you feel is deserving of it. Most importantly, be grateful for you.

Hope should never be lost

When you feel like you are at the end of the tunnel – what hope are you looking at?

Involve yourself in your community

Be involved. Don’t isolate yourself. Share life and joy with those around you.

Joy is worth investing

Live with joy because you are alive. What a gift!

Kindness is always appreciated

Being kind to others is much more beneficial to you overall happiness than being unkind.

Love is powerful

There is no greater emotion than love. 

You can either be in a loving state or a non-loving state. Think about how each one feels. Which one would you prefer to experience?

Mindfulness is important

Be conscious and aware of who you are and what you are doing. Be conscious and aware of the people around you and the world you are living in.

Nurture the things you desire

 If you wish to handle negative situations in your life with more balance and dignity, than cultivate genuine happiness.

Optimism greatly helps

If you want to live a positive and happy life than you have to live optimistically. There is more to it than simply saying you are going to be optimistic.

Passion motivates the most

Be passionate in your life. Don’t wait for someone else or something else to ignite the flame of passion into your life. Go find it for yourself!

Quiet your mind from time to time

Spend time in quiet. Just like your physical body needs breaks from time to time, the mind needs breaks as well. Quiet the mind and just be.

Resilience will help you survive

How resilient are you? When the going gets tough do you falter or persevere? Life is wonderful but there are going to be plenty of instances where you experience adversity.

Selflessness is not only good for others but also good for yourself

Many people are so focused on themselves that they forget what life is about. Instead of being selfish, be selfless.

Tolerate instead of hate people who are different with you

Intolerance only leads to more intolerance. It doesn’t solve anything.

Unconditional love is the most precious thing

When you love, love unconditionally. When you serve others, serve unconditionally. Unconditionally means without any strings attached.

Values should be sought in lives

Live a purposeful life. Seek meaning in what you are doing. Look for the good in people, even those people who you believe lack value.

Well-being is your top priority

You desire to live a life full of well-being. Well-being is a constant state of happiness and contentment.

Xenial people would be happier

Xenial means to be hospitable and giving especially to strangers and people whom you don’t know. Hold the door for strangers.
Let other drivers in front of you during high traffic times. Give someone hand carrying their groceries.

These are all examples of being xenial. Carrying out acts of kindness to people you don’t know will strengthen your positive outlook on life. Is there a greater feeling than helping someone who is need?

Yes for opportunities and possibilities

Do you consistently say decline invitations even when you are free and have no prior engagements? Step out of your comfort zone and try new things. 
If possible, say yes the next time you are invited out with friends or coworkers. It might change your life.

Zeal will make your life an unforgettable one

Live your life full of zeal. Be excited and energetic. Be genuinely happy!

Being happy can be as easy as learning the alphabet if you practice, practice, practice.

Once you are comfortable, your mind will begin to back off and it will seem that there is less and less willpower to learn or aspire to learn.

In parallel we get so focused on being the ‘next thing’ that we begin to set goals and dreams, with unrealistic expectations.

We aspire for greatness, yet we can find nothing to get us there and this usually because we stick with what we know and within the realms and comfort of a box. 

• If you want to have that willpower, that urge and that excitement to grow further and deeper, then you need to learn how to stretch yourself.
• If you want to have your goals come together into a masterpiece, you need to be willing to work for it.
• If you’re not willing to work for it… then something needs to budge.

If something needs to budge, then you really need to work out what it is you want.

Staying comfortable is like an un-watered seed. Nothing sprouts. – Chris Furlong 

With this all in mind, once you branch out of your normal and your comfortable ways, you will learn to challenge yourself for something more and something new.

Start by working hard, but not too hard, being quick with a helping hand and nice to people — without being a pushover. Hard work, people skills and a willingness to learn new things can take a person far in work — and in life. I’d say, these traits make up for a lack of smarts in most cases. – D. Keith Robinson

As you begin to feel relaxed or comfortable, you need to review your life and identify what opportunities there are available. Identify what is currently making you comfortable and identify what is going to help grow and stretch you once again. 

Identify what is making you comfortable, and list out 3 ways you can challenge yourself to grow (5 if you’re so keen). Be sure to write these out on paper. 

Really think about how you can take it to the next level!

But make sure you do it!

Change is not about fighting or trying to fix the old – but it is about creating the new. – Socrates

We are nearly a month into the year and I’m sure you have all had some ups and downs, some highs and lows with your goals and life in general.

A fixed mindset is what stops many of us from trying to improve in certain areas where we think we’ve hit our ceiling. In truth, of course, we’re all capable of reaching new heights. It’s just a matter of shifting from a fixed mindset to what Dweck (Stanford University psychology professor Carol Dweck) calls a “growth mindset,” a belief that we actually are in control of what we achieve. Yes, we all have inherent limitations; no matter how hard you try, you may never play tennis like Serena Williams. But, there’s a giant territory between being better than you are now and being the best in the world.

If you have a growth mindset, you think: If I stretch 10 minutes every day, I will become more flexible or If I take a class and practice every day, I will become a better writer. You’ll take on self-improvement projects and you’ll persevere through challenges because, deep down, you know you can succeed. If you think you’ve been holding yourself back with a fixed mindset, how do you go about shifting to a growth mindset? ***

To help you figure things out and ensure you remain on track. Here are some key points & challenges to encourage you, push you and hopefully motivate you to keep doing your best and to soldiering on!

• Time to get real! If you want change in your life, you need to make the time, the effort and the priority for it to be in your life.
• You need to apply yourself, even if it does require hard work. If it was easy, everyone would do it.
• I dare you to make time, prioritize and be the change, or start making the change you have always wanted.
• Everyday is new progress. Whether it be a little bit, more than before or simply the same amount, it is still better than nothing.
• Whatever your goal/resolution is… keep working towards it.
• Today, put in some time. Tomorrow, put in some more time.
• If you don’t put in the time, then don’t expect to see the results you want. 
• If it is one thing we are all destined to experience, it is growth. 
• All those good times, those bad times, those hard times and those easy times, these are all things that will grow you.
• Everything that is thrown at you, is a chance to bounce back bigger, stronger and better! A chance to stand up again!
• Just because things are tough now, doesn’t mean they will be forever.
• Perception and attitude will make the difference in your day. You just need to decide to have the attitude and perception to see it through!
• Have you progressed this week? Today is a day to remind yourself of where you are going!
• Have you swerved off track?
• Remind yourself of why you set your goal, why you decided to work for whatever it is you’re doing.
• If you have failed already, get back up and start again!
• Discipline requires self-control just as much as it deserves rewards! Reward yourself as you progress!

The longer you wait, the more gnawingly painful and paralyzingly complex it will feel. – @BenjaminPHardy

Have any of these points encouraged you?  Inspired You? Then please share these with your friends and family!

***SHAREN ROSS of Lifehack Org

Taking the effort to commit to something new can only be done if you want it to be and if you are willing to work for it. If you believe you can do it, you are already half way there.

I’ve been sugar-free for almost 3 years now, I have a strong and consistent exercise resume, I am running almost daily and pushing my limits wherever I can. The best part is, I have never felt this great ever. Being able to do new things I could never do, proves to me that my body is more capable than I had originally thought. 

Was it hard? It still is. But it is a lifestyle, so it is now a second nature to me. I have adapted and trained my mind to have no concern for when it comes to staying disciplined and motivated. 

The point is –  we all have what it takes and we also have the willpower inside of us to get up and do what it is required. #justdoit

Will it hurt? YES.

Is it worth it?  EVERY LIVING MOMENT!

Knowing that you are more capable than you had ever imagined, confirms with me that there is even better things to come. I would have never thought I could do what I do today, yet I am. 

If you want to see results and change – get out there and start kicking some goals.

Get out there and be consistent! Set your goal and don’t stoop until it is done!

Nobody said it would be easy – but if you keep at it, consistently and strictly, you will see the changes. Not just with weight, but just everyday willpower and performance.

Your purpose may either be clear to you or you are still in the progress of finding it. Trust me, I totally understand that not knowing what your purpose or passion is can drive you mad.

I tell you today. Don’t give up. Don’t give in.  You are unique and you are special. What you bring to the world will never be found again and who you are should be known to the world!

If you are not sure on what your purpose is than the only two clears I know are:

1. If you believe in God – ask and trust in him and he will lead you there.
2. Follow your heart, follow where it leads you.

If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose. – T.D Jakes

Here are some focus points and resources to help find your passion:

• 25 Questions That Will Guide You To Find and Follow Your Passion
• Becoming One With Your Passions: How To Open Up And Make Your Dreams A Reality

Regardless – we all have rough days, weeks and times. If this has been something ongoing for a long time. don’t give up… maybe it is a dry season, but don’t give up. Keep soldiering on! The moment when things will start to change, may be just around the corner. 

Get out there today and own it!

How does one become successful? Success can mean a lot of different things. For some, wealth. Others, happiness. Many, power. Perhaps success to you is building your dream company. For others, perhaps being financially independent. No matter what your definition of success is, they all have the same requirements — you need to put in the work, every single day.

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing — that’s why we recommend it daily” — Zig Ziglar

Becoming your best at everything you put your mind and hands too, comes down to your ability to persist through day after day, struggle after struggle and challenge after challenge. With an attitude of determination, a willpower of strong discipline, you can be the greatest at what you do, simply by putting in your best. But it comes through daily work.

Some of you will have read/heard this already but let me remind you of the late Steve Jobs and what he said at a Stanford University commencement speech:

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. You have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something–your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life. The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.

To give you a little incentive to take on the challenge, to embark on the road to self-discovery, here are three huge benefits from working to become the best, most genuine version of yourself.

1. It Will Make you Happy
Getting to know who you are, will make you feel more comfortable. Once you have learned to love who you are, you will more confident than you can ever imagine, or like never before!
This will have so many benefits to you.  It will reduce your stress and anxiety. It will make you a better spouse, a better parent, a better friend. It will make you a better person. Those are all pretty good reasons, if you ask me.

2. You Pay a Huge Price When you Engage in Mindless Distraction
You will learn that as you progress through life the real true ones you can rely on are; loved ones, friends and family.
There’s a business concept called opportunity cost. When you choose one course of action, you miss out on all the other opportunities you might have chosen to pursue but didn’t. People rarely stop to consider that until it’s too late. 

3. It’s the Most Exciting Journey you Will Ever Embark On

Opportunity for adventure is out there each day, right in front of you. It is there for you and everyone. Until you take it, you’ll never know what you might achieve, what marvels you might create and what you might discover. All you have to do is start the journey.

“What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?” ― Vincent van Gogh

We have all failed and made mistakes and when this happens again, you need to pull yourself together and take a step of courage and press forward. 

Here are some tips you can try: 

• Remind yourself that fear isn’t always helpful.
• Expand your comfort zone gradually.
• Remember to breathe.
• Take a step back and get objective and some perspective.
• Think of how you’d view a friend in the same situation.
• Ask, “Who do I need to become?” instead of, “What do I need to do?”
• Take action.

I think we can all agree that we can get so tied up and stuck thinking of what could have been, or where we might have been if we did things differently, that we forget to reflect and actually identify how far we have actually come.

Just take a moment and really think about this? Seriously! STOP what you are doing and just think how far you have come?

Think about all the things that are new in your life. Take a moment to look back over the last few years and identify 3 things for each year which has changed in your life or opened new doors. Think hard and see how many things you can identify to resemble just how far you have come.

In the last few years what have you conquered? Don’t try to find something over the top but keep it simple. Such as:

• Completing University
• Starting a new job
• A promotion
• Losing weight
• Started running

What are some things in your life which you have completed? It could be as simple as finishing a 5km run. Identify these and think about what it took to actually complete these chapters in your life. Actually looking back and seeing the growth in the little things, actually reflect the greatness in side you. 

Where you go is all part of the journey of how far you’ve already come. Each day and each step is another chance and moment in your journey. Reflecting on the growth you have achieved, will enlighten you for the present and encourage you to keep growing as you progress forward.