Day #335: The Choice Is Yours. Do or Do Not

The choice is yours. If you had been given the greatest power and you could use it at any time, what would you think and how would you use it? Well, let’s just say you have been given the greatest power and you can decide to use it whenever you want.  That power is a choice. You have been given the power of choice and free will.

At any given time you have a chance to make a choice. A choice anytime to do more, be more, change something, work harder, reflect, learn, listen, give, share, encourage, soldier on and so much more! It is never too late to start a new goal or a new change for the better. Don’t worry about the year being nearly over… If you want a change – start it today! Get a head start for next year! Or simply start and just do it. You have the power, like everyone else but don’t be one of these people who are all talk and no action. Ask yourself the hard question you need to ask.

How much do you want it? 

You can’t help everyone. But everyone can help someone. – Ronald Reagan

Help yourself.

If you have lost your motivation or drive to be more and be the best you – think about these 3 inspiring ways to get back to it: 

1. Get back to your hobbies.

2. Start remembering your purpose in life.

3. Get into good habits.

So what will you do?

Day #334: The Question Is – Are You Motivated Enough?

It’s official. We are about to enter the final month of the year. Firstly you are probably thinking where on earth did the year go… and secondly, you may be thinking how does this impact you. Well for those who may have decided not to chase a resolution or a goal this year and you are now regretting that decision… This final month about to commence gives you the opportunity to still take a part in being an achiever this year. It gives you a chance to be part of the motivated. 

The next month or 31 days is your final chance to practice a 30-day challenge. Why 30 days? Well, there is a common thought that 30 days is a mean time to make it or break it in terms of forming habits or breaking bad ones. However, for some people, it will take less and for some people, it will take longer. 

Steve Pavlina puts it best:

“We often psyche ourselves out of getting started by mentally thinking about the change as something permanent — before we’ve even begun…But what if you thought about making the change only temporarily — say for 30 days — and then you’re free to go back to your old habits? That doesn’t seem so hard anymore. Exercise daily for just 30 days, then quit. Maintain a neatly organized desk for 30 days, then slack off. Read for an hour a day for 30 days, then go back to watching TV.”

It’s important to make sure that when you attempt to break a habit in 30 days or in this care creating a new habit, you’re picking something you can you actually engage in on a daily basis, if not prioritize and make time for. Seems obvious when you think about it, but if you try to make a new  habit that you don’t do on a daily basis, its a bit harder to gauge your success in a limited 30-day window.

So there is my small challenge for you. Plan today and make a note of what you will test out for the next 30 days. Based on the results this may just surprise you enough to take it the next level and set yourself some sky high journeys for next year. 

Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going. – Jim Ryun

The question is. Are you motivated enough?

Day #333: Your Morning Is More Important Than You Think

Have you ever considered the greater impact your morning is having on your broader life? Seriously – have you ever taken the time to really understand how your life can be a direct reflection of your morning? Maybe it is, maybe it isn’t – but humor me for a moment and just hear me out:

The traits of a morning person bring benefits that I believe will make you a better person more and more each day, but these traits also become relevant to your broader life.  I have found that the below 3 points are what my mornings are made up of . This is how they reflect a deeper/greater impact to your life. 

Routine 

I have found that for any morning to have any sense of flow and structure you need a routine and a good one at that. Now, this doesn’t mean you need to do the same thing every day for the rest of your life, but it means you should have a structured morning each day whether it be the same as the day before, or maybe an alternating routine, or even a completely different routine on the weekend. The idea here is to have something which becomes second nature to you. Once your routine has become a morning usually, your mind and body will learn to adapt and go with its natural flow. This will put your whole morning into a kick started state when you wake, as your whole body and state of mind will be already doing what it should be… but subconsciously.

How is this going to overflow into your life? Routine encourages muscle memory, but also enables a way to simplify your life. Having things set out and planned ahead, due to routine, allows you to have more time to spend on other things and potentially more important things… rather than having to work out what you were going to wear or what food you will be eating today. Routine also enables or increases your consistency and even your reliability. Having a routine which works, which increases your ability to be productive will allow you to be consistent, dependable and in the end reliable. These are important traits when growing in the professional world and they will always be important for both your personal growth and external growth.

Attitude

Attitude is the key to any good day. Take away routines and you are left just another day. But attitude creates a day into what you want it to be. By setting my attitude the moment I wake up, this is usually the tone and theme for my day. Setting your morning tone basically, influences the remaining actions of your day. Attitude will also be determined by your purpose and intent of the day – if this is combined with a routine which proactively enables you to be ready and content in the morning – your attitude is going to be (without even trying) a reflection of this. The compounding of this will start to trickle across other areas of your life. Routine and even the increase of willpower across the rest of your life in your everyday actions or goals will naturally trigger your attitude to be of happiness more and more.

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” – Leonardo da Vinci

Excitement

Excitement is all about taking the little things of your day and turning them into the highlights, the high points and using these as motivators and encouragements. When we’re excited we release endorphin’s and we kick into gear with a boost of adrenaline. We overcome fears. We take chances. We make tough decisions. We push the boundaries. We explore our potential. We become solution-focused and we become more resourceful. Chat with any successful person about their goals and their passion and you’ll see what I mean about excitement. If you’re not excited (on some level) about your goals, then you may need to find some different ones. Your mornings can be filled with these moments, with this same sense of excitement through both routine and attitude but also by taking elements of your life and applying them to your morning. This could include music, food, exercise, free time or anything or everything which makes you feel that little extra pumped. Find some of these and sprinkle them into your morning – and just see how this will influence your day and each day for the rest of your life for the better.

Do you think you are up for it? Will you give it a go? Would you do it differently? What are some key areas / elements of your morning?

Day #332: Maturity Far Beyond Your Years – The Life Of An Old Soul

Different experiences in life can shape who we are and how we grow. Older generations dismiss 20-somethings and say, “You still have a lot of maturing to do.” However, many societal innovations and business accomplishments are discovered by people who are still quite young. This is what we call anOld Souland there is nothing wrong about being an old soul. 

What could potentially pull you into a category of an old soul? There are many things people with old souls experience. Here are just a few:

  • You could not wait to be old enough to get a real job. 
  • You don’t understand the point of random hookups and staying in relationships that aren’t going anywhere.
  • You search for a deep and compatible companion who could last forever.
  • People always turn to you for advice and to be a shoulder to lean on.
  • You enjoy the simpler things in life, like a real book because you love the smell of paper and ink instead of swiping on a Kindle.
  • You keep a tight and intimate circle of friends. You understand the dangers of toxic relationships and don’t want to waste your time on shallow friendships.
  • You understand who you are and where you want to go in life. While others went to college to find themselves, you already knew what you wanted.
  • You get slightly offended when someone tells you how young you look. You might interpret this as not being taken seriously or seen as an equal.
  • People find it easy to trust you with a lot of responsibility because they know you can handle it.
  • You’ve never really been a fan of partying because the idea of uncomfortable shoes, drunk strangers hitting on you and being sick the next day makes you cringe. Also, losing control over your body and mind is your personal hell.
  • You have a natural talent for reading people. Usually, no one can hide a secret from you or move on after an “I’m fine” because you understand microexpressions.
  • You all-around feel like you’re older than your peers. You’ll look at their actions and choices and feel confused. You’re often thinking to yourself, “I was definitely never like that.”
  • You see the bigger picture. Old souls have the tendency to look at life from a bird’s eye view, seeing what is the wisest and meaningful way to approach life.  When confronted with issues, old souls tend to see them as temporary and passing pains that merely serve to increase the amount of joy felt in the future.

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? – Satchel Paige

Day #331: Be Your Own Hero – Rise Up To Success

Adapting to new challenges and new change all boils down to the story you tell yourself. You should always be the hero of your story and even if you don’t make yourself out to be – usually you will be regardless. Each story involves the hero not believing he or she can do it, wanting to give up and give in to the easy route. Imagine if the great stories of all time went along the lines of our stories and ‘Frodo heads back to the Shire, because he believes he doesn’t have enough discipline to stick with something very long.’

The story we tell ourselves goes along these lines. They’re different for each of us, but if we’re not succeeding at something, it’s quite probably because we are telling ourselves the wrong story.

Try it now: think of a habit change you’re trying to make or that you’ve tried but failed at in the recent past. Maybe exercise, meditation, writing, defeating procrastination, etc. Now think about what story you told yourself about yourself. What image did you see in your head of yourself? Was it a brave hero triumphing over all odds, never to be deterred by the forces marshaled against him by the cold harsh universe? Or was it of an ordinary character who probably would give in to the donuts and Netflix when things got hard?

Maybe you can’t hear the story you’ve told yourself. try to sense what feeling is in your heart as you think of yourself conquering this new habit change or life change. Does it feel full of doubt, anxiety, fear, dread? Or is it full of joy, triumph, deep caring? Whatever you are thinking – that is the song your heart is singing… what goes in will come out. 

We fail because of this story. It stands in our way, more than the actual thing we’re facing. When things get tough or uncomfortable, we tell ourselves: it’s OK to quit, it doesn’t matter, we’ll do it next time, we’re not disciplined enough, we suck at this, we can’t do it, it’s too hard and so on and so on. We make excuses… or try to justify our failure. 

So what can we do if our story is working against us?

Change the story. Create a song to sing about yourself as the epic hero of your dreams. Sing this song daily, and be proud of it. Go after the dream, fight the forces of distraction and dullness and self-doubt, rise up to be your best self. You are the writer of your story, the composer of your song, and every moment is a chance to rewrite it, a new draft ready to be crafted into something better.

“Life belongs to the living, and he who lives must be prepared for changes”– Johann Wolfgang

Article composed based on original from Zenhabits

Day #330: Five Quick Tips For Your Journey

This journey we take will come with a cost. It won’t always be perfect, it won’t always be easy, it won’t always seem right… But sometimes in order to get to the next step in our journey, the next chapter or the right path, we need to go through some mess. Our character is built and defined through the experiences, the choices, the consequences and of course the values learned from all these. Keep soldiering through, keep pushing on! As your journey will take you where you need to go…

Regardless of your background, all of us find ourselves too absorbed in day-to-day stresses. When the responsibilities of life weigh on you too heavily, however, it can be easy to obsess over where we’re going. Too much concern with our goals over our reality can be tiring and make you lose perspective. Learning to enjoy life’s journey is a critical part of being content and happy. To focus on enjoying your journey more, and every day stress less, these five life approaches are indispensable:

Live in the Present.

Enrich your life.

Stay positive.

Unplug.

Relax.

It is good to have an end to journey towards, but it is the journey that matters in the end. – Ursula K. Le Guin 

Day #329: Consistency Is As Important As Correctness

Well done!. By the end of today, you have completed 90% of the year. The remaining 10% or 37 days are still just as crucial as the days that have gone by – if not more important. You need to keep the consistency!

If you have made it this far in continuing to commit to your goals and resolution this final 10% is only going to grow and help strengthen your willpower more as well as build even better self-control. Each day is a chance to continue to grow and build your skills and character and in this case, consistency is as important as correctness. How can you ever be true to your word if your actions are constantly inconsistent? Inconsistency is inherently sketchy and causes people to believe you have an alternative motive. You wouldn’t want to have come so far this year to only end up proving to people you can’t deliver let alone prove to yourself you have what it takes. 

“I’ve learned from experience that if you work harder at it, and apply more energy and time to it, and more consistency, you get a better result. It comes from the work.”– Louis C. K.

There is a multitude of benefits that behaving in a constant manner will offer. Patterns are important to elevate your confidence, seeing as when you make a commitment to something and follow through, you learn to trust your intentions. Your reputation will also benefit from consistency because when your behaviors reflect your words and promises, people will trust what to expect from you. There is a saying, which reads, “your reputation precedes you.” If you are known to follow through, people will appreciate that and remember you for it.

If you think you need to work on your character, the first place to look is at the patterns of your actions. Consistency is key!

Day #328: Consider The Direction You Are Going…

Everyone is always going to be giving their advice about what you should be doing and the direction you should be going. They have opinions about how much money you should be making, where you should live, when you should get married, etc. All of this advice is given with good intention. What matters the most is where your heart is directing you. You should decide to start making decisions for yourself that are in line with your values and life direction. Listen to the “should’s” and then listen to what your heart says.

Even if you don’t have a life plan, consider the direction that you are going.

“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” — Jim Rohn

We dream that we would have this or that by x in time – and usually this won’t be the case… Your life path should lead you to more clarity about who you are and what you want to do in this world. Rather than putting passions to the side, use your network and resources to really dive in deeper. More importantly, don’t forget about the people around you. They need to know that you love them. A good way to do this is to let them engage your passions with you.

Never give up on your passions and dreams, without neglecting people you love.

Day #327: Life Lessons Of Being A Runner You Should Adopt

If you had asked me 4 years ago to go for a run or if I ever planned to be a runner – I would have giggled and said to you – keep dreaming. Yet here I am today and I can honestly say that Running is the best thing I have started doing and included into my busy schedule. Now with over 1,750 km’s ran I can say, I believe running is for everyone. Being small, skinny, big, obese or fit, it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t have to be 10 km’s to consider ourselves runners, but 20-25 minutes of running for beginners is quite good. 
Running is a tool to ignite and restart the body and mind.

Running is beneficial in every aspect:

  • It is beneficial for overall health; it can raise the levels of good cholesterol;
  • It can boost our immune system and it can help in every way, literally.
  • Running can help us lose weight. Actually running is the second most effective exercise considering burned calories per minute. First is cross-country skiing.
  • It act’s as a ‘positive drug’ giving you a sweet torture to your body, followed by a joyful experience

4 Lessons You Can Adopt From Running (you should run to feel this for yourself):

You Should Never Underestimate Yourself

“It’s not who you are that holds you back. It’s who you think you’re not.” – Denis Waitley

Fauja Singh is 102 and is believed to be the world’s oldest runner. Since taking up running, aged 89, he has run nine full marathons. Singh retired from competitive races in February after completing a 10K race in Hong Kong. But he still jogs every day in east London. He talked to Nadeem Badshah about what running means to him and how he keeps himself in shape. If this amazing man can do it – so can anyone else. Running can make us self-confident and boost our self-esteem. The experience in achieving a goal is widely known. Simply by the fact that we set and achieve a goal (to run 30-35 minutes or run 6-7 miles or roughly 10km) we feel much happier and empowered.

Runners Meditation

Our brain is relieved from bad thoughts and it is forced to think on our left-right legged frequent steps. Although it feels automatic, the brain is forced to give commands to every part of our body. By the fact that it gives commands to the body and makes symphonically perfected movements, it is relieved from the aberrations accumulated from everyday life. After only a few minutes of running, the brain starts to relieve hormones that naturally improve our mood. One of them is the endorphin or so-called “feel-good” chemical.

The Accordance of Body & Mind

Imagine as the body argues with the mind that he is always the pessimist. The mind always hurts the relationship between them and the body always wins the argument. The best way to see body and soul as one is with running. It’s the balance between the physics and psyche. If we lurk a bit inside the process of running, we can conclude that by the process in the physical world, the body forces the mind to make ourselves feel good. By doing the movement of running, the body drags the mind’s attention away from the negativity and, in a positive way, forces the mind to produce feel-good chemicals.

“The Feeling”

Since we deciphered three of the codes, “the feeling” is the outcome of all three. It’s the feeling when we stop, when we stretch, eat a banana, and get a hot, steamy shower. While we are busy torturing our brain to release feel-good chemicals, we get prepared for the final feeling. I call it “the dessert”, except its not physical cake or something sweet. It’s like feeding the brain with the cake without touching a spoon.

We cannot explain how being in love feels or how being drunk feels. We can’t explain “the feeling” either, but we can give a pretty good example of how to get to it. GO RUN.

The 4 Lessons You Can Learn From Running originally was written by – 
Nikola Gjakovski is an International Marketing Manager. Dog’s lover, Spa Center owner, Healthy Food Store owner, ex kickboxer and adrenaline junkie. His passion is motivating the individuals to make this world a better place. He discovered his talent through his life experience all over the years. You can meet this guy at www.simplecapacity.com

Day #326: Just Pure Raw Passion!

Take a moment today, take a chance to re-evaluate who you are and what you are gunning for in life. What is your passion? Humor me for just a moment. I don’t care when it is today – but take a chance. What if I told you that you could live a life, in which you ruled the timing, you worked when and how you wanted. You didn’t have to take orders but make your own path. What if you could do anything or everything you have ever wanted to do and you would never have to worry about money again? Sounds too good to be true right, while at the same time you are thinking WHERE DO I SIGN UP or WHERE DO I START. Well if you are thinking one of these, or maybe you are simply curious… I dare you to read on…
You can be anything you dream to be. You can be anything you want to be – as long as you are willing to risk it all and take the chance and believe you can. Now it won’t be an overnight success but it will be a success. Time, effort, hard work, fun, people and an idea of what you are doing is all going to play a part and a role in getting you from the very moment you start to the very moment you achieve a lifestyle overhaul.
 
But what is this lifestyle overhaul I’m talking about? How and why is this lifestyle better than what you are doing?
 
Well if you are working the “9 to 5” corporate drain, or maybe something similar to that – if you are doubting your focus, motivation and adrenaline to pursue further, to go for the promotion, to work hard and hopefully be rewarded – then maybe you need to make a change. If you love this, or what you are doing already then you may as well stop reading. To be frank… if you are just living life and working for the sake of working to survive, or to get by – then this is perfect for you to read on.

So before you can have this amazing new lifestyle you need to do two things.

  1. Go through a process of SELF-DISCOVERY. It will be the best lesson you will ever learn.
  2. Get a pen and paper and ask yourself a bunch of questions (listed below) and see your results.

From these, you can take a blueprint, a plan or food for thought and have something to move forward with. You can take action and actually start working towards a new lifestyle design. Make that passion happen! So let’s do this.

1. A process of self-discovery.

– original article by Isamar Avery

Sometimes we find ourselves so totally lost like you are following the path that has been designed for you, but you have no control or say, like a puppet, and still find yourself in the middle of nowhere without a map or compass to guide the way, or a mobile to call home. That is what life is: a paradoxical Bermuda Triangle. You have no one but yourself as a resource to stay afloat. (you do have God – don’t ever doubt it or him. Want more info on God? You can ask me about that anytime)

We spend the best years of our lives going to school to learn how to be something. After learning that something we go into a life long career to pay a mortgage or to be a cog in a machine, with a big dream to one day hit it big…. but with no plan on how you will. In the real world, books won’t lead you out of the woods. You can’t look for answers in the dictionary, and a map will never lead you where you ought to go. They can guide you but the answer comes down to the discovery of the self and how it is the most valuable lesson you were never taught.

Here are 8 Self’s you need to get to know: (read full article here)

  • Self-taught

  • Self-aware

  • Self-drive

  • Self-worth

  • Self-realization

  • Self-trust

  • Self-hate

  • Self-love

2. #askyourself

Finding your passion is never an easy process – but one way and a way which reveals the most is through pen and paper and your mind. So go grab some paper and write down these questions and get your mind in the right place for this process.

  1. Make a list of things that you are good at. Skills and strengths. For example, are you good at sports? List the sports you’re good at. Other examples: reading, writing, filing paperwork, algebra, running, driving, caring for animals, etc. List any and all skills that you have.
  2. Make a list of things that you enjoy. Things that are fun for you, or that you are passionate about. Anything at all…animals, reading, playing games, exercising, celebrities, helping people, algebra, etc. List any and all things that you enjoy doing and/or are passionate about.
  3. Make a list of careers that you could pursue using the things from BOTH lists. If you like animals, you could list things like “veterinarian” or “animal shelter worker”. If you are good at math, you could list things like “math teacher/tutor”, “computer science”, or “finance”. Make a list of careers that you could pursue using either your skills or your passions.
  4. Now look at your first two lists and ask yourself: is there anything that you are BOTH good at AND enjoy doing? If so, you are lucky! Not everyone has a skill that they also enjoy doing. Look at where this specific activity fits into the third list you made of possible careers. Ask yourself, is this activity something that you would like to pursue as a career? It can be very enjoyable to do something you love for work.
  5. If there is NOT something that you are both good at and enjoy doing, don’t worry! Many people are in this situation yet are still able to live happy fulfilling lives. You’ll just have to think a little harder about what you want your future to be like. If this is the case, here’s what to do next:
  6. Choose something from your lists to try. You cannot find out what you want to do without trying some things, especially when you are young and have less experience. The more experience you have, the more you will learn about yourself, your abilities, and what you want out of life. So choose a few things and pursue them as best you can.

If you are not sure what to try, here is an answer about passions and strengths that might help you to narrow it down: How do you get to know your passion?

Still, don’t know? Have a look here: How do I discover my passion?

Want a book to read about it? –  $100 Startup: Reinvent The Way You Make a Living, Do What You Love and Create a New Future by Chris Guillebeau

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ~ Mark Twain