Day #100: All About You

The problem is we all wait for Friday or even the weekend for that fact… as if it is mystically better than all the other days.

Just like we wait a year for summer or we put things off because of the weather and we end up waiting around for happiness to jump into our laps.

Well this is what you need to do! Treat each day like it is better than every other day. This comes through attitude. You also need to stop making excuses and start creating solutions!

If you haven’t realized already, you are actually stronger than you think. Your drive to succeed, to achieve and to push forward is derived from your ability to overcome your mindset, especially when it tries to trick you into thinking you can’t go on.

You can do it! Just be willing to push yourself!

It takes time… sometimes years to master a skill, craft, or habit. And while it’s good to keep perspective on your dreams, I think it’s better to remember the other side of this story: Rome wasn’t built-in a day, but they were laying bricks every hour.

The only limits in life are the ones you make – Unknown

You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your life priorities. You have your own ideas about the things that would make you and your loved ones truly comfortable and happy, which is your main priority. Since we are all unique individuals with different values, dreams and aspirations, your core priorities will be different from the next person’s. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for what you determine is your core priority in life. That is your personal business not other people’s business.

It’s a new day, a new beginning. Today be the day you step it up! Fight back and be the person you’re supposed to be.

With new strength and new thought, go into the day ready to grow and conquer. The journey to greatness continues.

You were born to conquer the world. Born to change the world. Born for greatness and born to make a difference. You can’t always change the “what” you have to do, but you can always change the “why” or “how.” If you change your “why” or change your “how”, you can find your motivation, even for tasks you don’t normally want to do. The fastest thing you can change in any situation is you. You can’t change somebody else, but you can change yourself in an instant. Even if you want to change somebody else, or to change the situation, your fastest path to change is to change yourself, whether that means how you see things or how you show up or how you choose to do things.

If you started the year with the intention to work on a resolution and you made it up till today (Day 100). This is a shout-out to you! Keep going and keep rocking it!

Day #099: Progress Counts

Setback’s are what keep us honest. They bring us back to reality and remind us we are simply human. However you should never view a setback as a bad experience. It should be just another life lesson. Progress is progress, any little bit counts.

Just because you are not seeing results, this doesn’t mean you have a set back. Set backs are usually the result or consequence of doing something, which wasn’t catered for or planned for.

All of us have goals. Goals like losing weight, earning more money, finding a life partner, setting up our business, achieving performance targets, being fitter, building better relationships, and so on. Some people seem to have no problem achieving their goals. Some, on the other hand, don’t seem to be able to make any progress. – Celestine Chua

If you find yourself stuck with progressing with your goals and you know it isn’t a setback, it will most likely boil down to one or more of these reasons.

As you read through the list, ask yourself if you do any of these. See if you can take note and take action in working to change these…

  1. You Procrastinate
  2. You Underestimate Your Goal
  3. You Defend Your Problems Rather Than Taking Action
  4. You Are Stuck In A Box (Your Own World)
  5. You Are Not Working Smart
  6. Fear
  7. You Are Distracted
  8. You Over Complicate Situations
  9. You Give Up or Give In
  10. You Lose Sight of The Goals
  11. You Are Stuck In your Own Ways

Your goals are in your hands – you can achieve them as long as you strive for them. Address the 11 things blocking you from your success, and it’s a matter of time before you achieve results you seek.

The main point to take from this, is that even if you have had a setback or maybe you have been lacking with your progress. Regardless, you need to get back out there, you need to be taking action and making your mark. Progress is progress, any little bit counts.

Do something today that will bring you closer.

Day #098: Take A Boost

To boost one’s confidence, trial and error may be involved, however through the ongoing growth and persistent action, you can get there.

How many times does it take us to realize that if we continue to make the same mistakes over and over – that we will never grow. 

How many times, must we put ourselves through misery, shame and embarrassment, because we were too sacred to speak up or to scared to take action. 

What will it take? Does it take others to tell us? Or does it just take a moment to say I want this. I want change. I want to be better.

Confidence is something everyone struggles with, as there is always bigger fish out there, bigger and better than you. Trust me, even those who seem to be the most confident of them all, they will always have aspects and areas in their lives they don’t love about themselves, which will impact their confidence.

After reading a few articles this week, I have found 5 of the most common ways to boost your confidence. You can take these and apply them or you can ignore them, it is up to you.

  1. Fake it ’til you make it
    Funny enough the trick to emitting a confident vibe is simple really. Fake it. Pretending and believing your self-confidence is up there; soon enough it will be, and usually without you realizing. One tip for this is, before you walk in the room just remind yourself to put on your confidence.
  2. Check yourself before your wreck yourself  (body language)
    You should always be aware of how you position yourself. Your body works as an image, it can express a thousand words. How you stand can subconsciously emit your confidence and will impact how others perceive you. Examples:

    A scientific study showed that if a person stands in ‘Superman Pose,’ where they place their hands on their hips and put their shoulders back, they are more likely to be confident and perform better during interviews and other tasks.
    Stand upright in this position for five minutes before any situation that demands confidence and you’ll notice a difference.
  3. Focus your thoughts
    If your mind is in the rough, if your mind is on the negative, if your mind is anywhere but positive, this will lead to doubt and inadequacy. Brush down any thoughts which will limit your confidence. Focus on the things that make you feel great when doing whatever it is you are doing.
  4. Stop comparing
    The moment you stop comparing yourself to the people around you let alone the highlights of their lives as seen on their Facebook, Instagram and other social medias, you will be and see yourself as more confident than ever. Once you find happiness from within, this will radiate around you. 
  5. Connect & engage
    People who have a low self-confidence are usually stuck in their own mind, battling negative thoughts or thoughts about people around them thinking negatively. Instead of approaching a situation with these thoughts, focus on people and things around you that emit a positive vibe. Build your confidence through growth. Whether it be through conversations, reading or sharing. 

Remind yourself that everyone has their own path and you are exactly where you are supposed to be, and you’ll find yourself being more confident than you were before. – Maria Admira

Day #097: Follow Follow Follow

Imagine for a moment you had won 13 million dollars. No more. No less.

In this case let’s pretend it was a was a lucid dream. Everything you experienced, saw and felt in the dream was as if it was real.

Upon waking, you debate with yourself of how real reality was… and you convince yourself that no, you had not won 13 million dollars and you shouldn’t try to convince yourself that you had.

By now you are probably thinking…what does this have to do with anything?

Your living life doing whatever it is you do and in some moments; you question the what if’s, you question when will your dreams come true, you question when will things be better and you question when will you have all these things?

So let me ask you this: What Would You Do If Money Were No Object?

You want all these things, but most of the time (not always) we limit these things based on the object of money.

Money will make life easier and will work as an enabler – but remember behind the money is a person who can also enable. YOU

So let’s work backwards. Define your ultimate lifestyle, your dream living. Take away the dollars and define what your perfect everyday life would and should look like for the rest of your days.

What does it look like?

Well what is stopping you from working towards this? Don’t say money… 

There is always something you can do to work towards this goal and this dream. You just need to define it right and see it in the right perspective.

This is your chance to take a chance of being yourself and what you can do. Yes you may have some set backs, some tough times and some failures.
But once you have counteracted these, grown through these and conquered these. You will be better than ever and I will guarantee that you will be happier too.

That’s everybody is – somebody is interested in everything, anything you can be interested in, you will find others will. But it’s absolutely stupid to spend your time doing things you don’t like, in order to go on spending things you don’t like, doing things you don’t like and to teach our children to follow in the same track. – Alan Watts

Here’s your chance to take action…

I would love to hear and have you share what it is you do, or wish to do.
Even if you don’t believe it yet, I dare you to take a chance to share with me what it is you like to do.

Maybe you need to some encouragement?

  • If you doubt your skills.
  • If you doubt your hobbies.
  • If you doubt your work.
  • If you doubt what you are good at.
  • If you doubt what you are going to do for the rest of your life.
If you have questions on any of the above, or anything similar to these, contact me. Lets chat.

Day #096: Belief & Limits

It is not who you are that holds you back, it’s the belief of who you think you’re not.
What are you believing?

Do you believe in yourself?

Do you believe you can do it?

Do you believe you are good enough?

Beliefs create maps that guide us towards our dreams and goals. They give us the ability to take action.

The problem is – our beliefs overpower our ability to construct and actually fulfill our goals and dreams.

Why? Because we don’t even believe we are capable of doing something.
We limit ourselves before even trying, we limit ourselves as being something not good enough or not this or that.

Let me remind you that you will never be someone else, you will only ever be you. That’s the way it should be.
So wake up and realize who you are and embrace the person you are, but this doesn’t mean you can’t be a better person than you are. 
You can aspire to be like others and follow their footsteps and lifestyles but do it as your own.

Our limiting beliefs can cause us to miss out on the things that we want most and our empowering beliefs can drive us toward to the life we want to live. – Tony Robbins 

What is a goal that you have always wanted to achieve and haven’t?

Why haven’t you?

Whatever your reason, there’s always a limiting belief.

The first step to empowering beliefs is to understand the four places our beliefs come from.
If you can identify these (I recommend you take a pen and paper and start jotting down some ideas), then you will soon empower those beliefs more than ever.

Free yourself from the idea that environments dictate who you are or what you believe.
You are free to make your own decisions in whatever environment it will be.

The day you got married. The birth of your child. That big promotion. The death of a loved one. Even terrorist attacks.
Events impact our lives profoundly causing us to form beliefs.
Can you think of an event that has impacted you in a positive or negative way?

Knowledge is not power. Knowledge is potential power.
Put yourself in proximity with people who know more than you do.
Don’t base your belief purely on what others believe, but identify how and what they believe in and find out for yourself.

Past Results 
We all create beliefs around the results of past achievements or failures. But past results do not equal future results.
If you base your belief of failure, or the things that didn’t happen, you will always expect the worse.
I say screw the past and the failures – take these and step up from them and start believing you are better than these!

It is a new day and there is no better day to INSPIRE your belief than today.
You can hit the nail on the head today and get your head in the game by believing firstly in yourself and you abilities to do your best.
If you can do this then your week will shine. This week will be yours to own.

Only if you believe it though…

Day #095: Our Own Effort

A few times I have noted that your worst critic is yourself. Your worst enemy is yourself. Do you take an effort to put down or encourage yourself?

I mean let’s be honest, if you wouldn’t say it to someone else, then you shouldn’t be saying it to yourself.

Yes it is great to be tough and hard on ourselves, as this pushes us to do more and outside our comfort zones. However being too hard or tough on ourselves to the point in which we destroy any self-worth let alone motivation to progress further is not advocated!

Most people start off with little or low self-confidence, but as a result of their own efforts, they become bold and brave and outgoing. – Brian Tracy

Most of us will start off with little or very low-self confidence, however as noted above it is due to the result of OUR OWN EFFORTS that we become bold and brave and outgoing.

Yes our own efforts.

You need to get out there and push yourself. You need to believe in yourself.

If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect others too. You need to set the bar.

A recent video inspired by Dove has been making it’s self known across the internet. In the case you have missed it, I have posted a link below for your reference.
No matter how confident we are, we’re always our own harshest critics.#‎OneBeautifulThought‬ This campaign is focused towards women – but it is an eye opener for all!

Link to video: See More Here

Day #094: The Power of Influence (Expect. Desire. Respect. Admire.)

Everyday you are given the freedom of free will, which has the ability to change lives and influence the world. Used correctly, you will be able to do things you didn’t even know you would or could. However, the below 4 points, will help you understand just how powerful and special you are especially when it comes to following influence and being an influence.

Attract what you expect, reflect what you desire, become what you respect, mirror what you admire. – Unknown

  1. Attract What You Expect
    This is all based on attitude. What you put in is what you will get out, especially in the sense of how you perceive the day. If you have a negative outlook towards the day, or to the things you have planned for the day, how do you expect these to play out? Try focusing on the positive things and situations, this way you wont be naturally drawn to negativity, or you wont have a focus towards it. But if you work your mind to be tuned to being positive this is what you will get. Even in the tough and hard moments you will see the positive in the situation.
  2. Reflect What You Desire
    Be the person you want attracted into your life. Most people are wanting to attract certain people into their lives. However, due to their lifestyle, their habits, their personality and the everyday things they do, this does not attract that. Be and live what you desire for. Do it with integrity and do it confidently. 
  3. Become What You Respect
    Look up to the people above you, to the people who have found success and you wish to aspire to be like. Study them, their books, how they think, how they live and work. Take your similar traits and work on blending and developing them with theirs. This will make you a better person in the sense of you will be stretching yourself to aspire further and it will give you a clear goal. However, remember to be YOU and not someone else.
  4. Mirror What You Admire
    Take your habits, your daily do’s, your manners and your care for others and mirror that after the people who are doing the best of this and who are doing it well. Mirror the people who are doing great things, positive things and who you admire to be like. Let these traits reflect and of course let these things be known to others. If it is worth advocating and worth admiring, share it with others.

Regardless of the above 4 points – remember it is fine to find all these great qualities in people or things that you wish to have in your life, but do this and make it your own and ALWAYS BE YOU!

Do your thing. Do it every day. Do it ‘unapologetically’. Don’t be discouraged by criticism. You probably already know what they’re going to say. Pay no mind to the fear of failure. It’s far more valuable than success. Take ownership, take chances and have fun. And no matter what, don’t ever stop doing your thing. – Asher Roth

Day #093: Until You Are Done

Looking ahead towards your destination, this can stir quite the scare. Not always knowing how things are going to pan out or how they are going to look when all is done and dusted… can cause unnecessary stress and increase pressure.

But fear not, as whenever something is coming your way, rather than trying to give up try to find ways to push further.

I understand that looking forward can seem overwhelming and I know that it can all seem a little too much.

But in time, in strength, effort and with a solid mind you will be pushing your way further than you could have imagined.

I know for me – When I look ahead and I can see a pile of work/tasks or challenges to complete. This is where I need to be positive about it.

Being Positive About It

  • Look at the situation and redefine it though a positive perspective
  • Smile about it – embrace the challenge
  • Know your limits, but know you will grow too

“The only way to feel better about myself is to go out… and do it.” – Susan Jeffers

It will always seem impossible in the beginning, but that is because you have no idea of what it yet to come.

But soon enough you will see just how MORE THAN CAPABLE you are and you will feel even better about it once it is done.

So will you apply a positive perspective?

Day #092: The Timeline

We are all on a journey with a timeline to be who we ought to be – so why not choose and accept the journey and don’t let the world control it, but take control of it yourself.

“You roll out of bed everyday of your life regardless of if you are happy or not. Whether you love or hate what you’re doing, you still awake and do what you do. So why not roll out of bed and work towards your dreams, reach for a new goal this year. There is a clear path to what you want in life. So start by taking one step towards your goal and don’t look back!”– Chris Nowak

Regardless of where you are on the timeline of success and your journey to becoming your greatest. Remember you will always be the best if you give your best. As long you keep being that then you will continue to stretch and grow yourself.

The below video is a small yet powerful reminder that we are all on a journey and some of us have just started, while others are the ultimate professionals. 

Regardless, we should be encouraging those above and below us or even next to us to ensure they are going to continue to grow and confidently too with the support they need.

So where are you on your timeline? Who are you encouraging?

Day #091: Overcome Overwhelmed

We’re almost 25% through the year.  A quarter done and dusted.

Where has it gone? What have you achieved? What are you yet to do?

Is life busy, is life overwhelming? Are you keeping up with what you have chosen to do for the year?

Education? Study? Working? Work? Family? Love?

We have so much going on, when and where can we breathe and reflect let alone let loose and live a little or just have some me time?

Well if it helps – just remember you are not the only one with all these things going on – so don’t think for one second that you have it tougher than someone else. As there will always be someone else who is going through more and worse than you.

With this said though – you are allowed to feel overwhelmed; for if you are feeling overwhelmed, the positive way to view this is that it is your body and mind telling you that you are growing. You have reached a new point outside your bubble of comfort and you are feeling it! Like all the hard work you do at the gym, (you better be going) the next day is when you feel the growth… the good pain.

This overwhelming time may be stressful, full of pressure and scary… but it is growing you and you will get through it.

You have before and you will again.

“Hard work begins when you deal with the things that you’d rather not deal with: fear of failure, fear of standing out, fear of rejection. Hard work is about training yourself to leap over this barrier, tunnel under that barrier, drive through the other barrier. And then, to do it again the next day.” – Seth Godin

My trick towards taking on a full on week, a full load of work or in any case to be honest, is to have a regular routine.

The best way I stay honest, dedicated and motivated is by setting aside the time in my week to do my regulars, making a routine. We are all creatures of habit, some more than others, but we all tend to work better with a set schedule as it is a sense of security.

You can have one big routine, or you can have multiple routines in a day. Regardless, build a consistent schedule and create your routine down to the details. Yes that includes, the meals you make for breakfast, lunch and dinner, to the times you commute to work, to the music types you listen to at certain times. The list goes on…

Build and create your own, make it a shadow of your existence and make it automated by doing it regularly – soon enough it will come second nature.

With this all in mind I guess the most important thing is to take a break once in a while. Even if this means 30 mins out of a busy day. A BREAK is a BREAK.

As taking a breather will do these 5 things:

  • Give yourself a perspective on what really matters
  • Lower overall stress levels
  • Raise self-awareness
  • Focus on the present
  • Reduce Negative Emotions

How will you plan your day?