Day #200: The Next 4,000 Hours Could Change Your Life

We have now hit 200 days. Whatever it was you had set out to do this year, you only have 165 days to complete it. The year is slipping away… and you are either SMASHING and CONQUERING your goals or you are simply FAILING to do anything and continuously POSTPONING whatever it is to the next day or someday. Let me remind you that SOMEDAY is not a day that exists. Someday is your way of saying this is isn’t your priority right now. Even though every day you sit thinking, wishing and dreaming that you had this or that… when all you need to do is TAKE ACTION. Take a leap, take a jump and see what you can do for yourself.

I have found that our biggest hindrance is motivation and confidence. When you are wanting to do something, something which is going to make an impact whether it is an impact to you or someone else – we can become a little overwhelmed or fearful of the idea of “What if I fail?”

Well what if you do fail. What if you don’t. If you do fail, who will actually know? I mean, if you have told people well of course they may know, but if you don’t, then the only person you have to prove yourself to is you. Now I can understand, you may set the standard high, or the expectations even higher, but it is you. We are our own worst critics. We are our worst enemies. Get over yourself… you will fail sooner or later and I would think it is better to fail privately than it is to publicly. That may come too… but if you can handle failure from your worst critic (YOU) then you basically can handle anything. Seems legit right? Well that’s because it is. What is even funnier is it is really that simple.

All you need to do is start something today, even if it is planning how you will start tomorrow. Any good project will have an exceptional planning period and whatever your goal is, is just another project.

I say screw failure. Let it come. Otherwise, the longer you wait around for something to be right and to be perfect, this is never going to happen. I am sorry to scare you or even surprise you. But this is reality. People may seem like that have it all, but I can promise you there is something in some area in their life which isn’t as glamorous as the one they are showing. Why? Because we are human.

So I challenge you to get out there and MAKE IT HAPPEN. As it is your dream and your goal so it is all dependent on you. But feel free to ask for help along the way. As I noted before our biggest hindrance is motivation and confidence and this derived from the fear of failure. So how do we increase our motivation and encouragement…

Yep you guessed it. Look and see what others are doing and find the inspiration to motivate you from what they are doing. Secondly, speak and work with others. Maybe you are trying to do too much as a lone wolf. Maybe you are thinking you can take on the world single-handedly… Well maybe you can one day, but right now you are a growing youngster who has more TALK than ACTION. So find a buddy, find a mentor, find someone who is going to inspire, encourage and motivate you through the thick and thin. You can even have more than one. Just do it.

There you have it. You have literally less than 4,000 hours of this year, in which the longer you wait the harder it is going to get to CONQUER whatever it is you want to accomplish this year. Don’t make the same mistake you have made before, making the year not what you wanted. Make 20165 the year you rose to the pedestal and made an impact. More so making an impact on you.

 As Richard Branson said: “Screw it, just do it”

Day #199: Excuses Limiting Your Happiness and Life

An excuse is what holds us back. They are the difference between this and that. The difference of growing or remaining constant. The difference between living in fear or taking a risk. The difference between living and dying. The list goes on. Excuses control us, consume us and dictate what we do. But further to this, we are the ones that make the decision to make an excuse. We think we have our valid reason, but here is a question for you. If we make excuses to avoid doing something, is this conflicting with our integrity? I mean, if someone asks if you can do something, but you come back at them and say you are kind of busy and you are not sure of your timeline of completing your current task… Now this isn’t lying but it is using a situation, to manipulate yourself out doing a task which you don’t seem all that excited by.

Just think about it –

excuse – an explanation offered as a reason for being excused; a plea offered in extenuation of a fault or for release from an obligation, promise, etc.

With this all in mind, we tend to continue to make excuse’s, which actually keeps limiting us of who and what we are.

Ever heard, or recall saying “I’ll be so happy when X happens”

At the core, we tend to believe the pursuit of “X” will solve our deepest problems. When really all we are is infected with the deadliest disease of all. 

The “I will be happy when” syndrome.

If you can’t be happy where you are, with what you have, you never will. – Dale Partridge

This is ridiculous; following a life of chasing an achievement after achievement saying that completing each one of these will make you happy and content. Yes it is GREAT that you are pursing these goals and I say continue to do so, but don’t let it consume your ability to live happy. You should not have to be something in the future, or somewhere in the future to be happy. What about now? Why can’t you be happy now?

I have a challenge for you…

BE HAPPY TODAY.

Be content with your life, with what you have. Stop trying to fill your gaps within you, with outward success. A job, a person, a promotion, a house or winning the winning the lottery will make you happy, but they will never heal or cure the disease of being unable to be happy now.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • Why am I chasing this? 
  • Why do I believe achieving ‘X’ will make me ‘Y’?
  • And the harder question, Can I be happy without them, or it, or that?
We can’t control the future; we can’t control the outcome of most events in our lives. But we can control our happiness. And when we’re happy with the real thing, there is rarely a need for “X”.

Day #198: 10 Things Worth More Than Your Money

Money helps the world spin madly on and unfortunately it also helps people spin madly on. Money can consume who we are and blind us from reality. Today I bring to you 10 things more important and more valuable than money. These are in no particular order…

Don’t count every hour in the day. Make every hour in the day count!” ~ Mark Amend

Time with your family

Money can always be made, but time, it will only ever be lost and consumed. You can never gain time, only spend it wisely. Family is important. If you were to charge yourself for the time you have spent with your family in comparison to the time spent away – how rich do you think you would be. Do the math… Lets say you spend 3 to 4 hours a night per week. That is 28 hours a week and at a low entry rate of $20, that’s only $560 a week. Is your family this cheap? Or should they be worth more than this?

Writing down your ideas

Ideas will always grow as you grow. Your knowledge and wisdom through trial and error will help you derive new ideas and ways of doing things. Write these down, as this rich source of information is your mind working at it’s best. If you don’t, then one day you will come back looking for it and will have lost what potentially could be the next world shaking idea.

Experiences

Your favorite moment – you cannot take it with you but it will always be in your mind. Yes money can go with you, but money once again is consumed by the monster of society.  Plus you can never buy happiness, it is found in the moments by you.

Giving

Like a boomerang, as you give you will be blessed. As you throw it out it will go around and touch everyone. As it comes back to you and as you catch it, it will feel fun. Fun will always be better than money!

Laughing 

Laughing will always make you happier and even healthier. You will live longer. You cannot buy laughter, but you can find it the places you would least expect and it will never let you down.

Persistence

We all dream of doing something important, but it will take persistence to achieve it. This lets you share ideas and persistence also gets people excited about ideas, and will surely get you paid for them too.

Ideas for other people

Aspire further in your own life to help aspire others further in their own lives. Here is an idea. Come up with “10 Ideas to make (Insert Name) Better”. This could be a person or a business. Send this list out and do it for 50 people/businesses. Maybe only 1 will respond, but that is all it takes for something great to start,

Your DNA / Legacy

What type of legacy are you leaving? Money will disappear over time, it may also increase. But who you are, your essence and passion, your ideas. These shared moments can live on forever.

Physical health

Health should always be more important than money. As if you are not able to operate, then it will make it hard to make money, let alone spend it. Be healthy every day, so you can live a long and healthy life. You will be happy.

You

You are an amazing contribution to society, to the world and to those directly around you. You don’t need money to be an impact. If you take away the money from the person, is the person still left? Well he/she should be, as money shouldn’t define a person. You can be and are simply amazing without it. Don’t ever doubt it.

Day #197: Take Action Now And Ask Questions Later

I have some questions for you:

What would you do, if I said that there was $100,000 on the rooftop of a building right now and you have 15 minutes to get to it – Would you get it? Of course you would. Would you know exactly how were going to get it? No you wouldn’t. You would rush off with the goal in sight and work out the how and the what, while you are doing it. 

Seem’s legit right? 

“To be successful, you have to be out there. You have to hit the ground running and if you have a good team around you, and more than a fair share of luck, you might make something happen. But you certainly can’t guarantee it just by following someone else’s formula.” – Richard Branson

Let me ask you another question: (you may want to write this down)

What do you have as your goal in life. Where are you trying to go? What are you trying to do? Take away everything. Stop what you are doing and think for a single moment. Define your very endgame. 

Is it a business? A life full of passion? Financial Freedom? What is it? You don’t have to define all the specifics or the details, just jot down quickly what it is.

OK – now that you have it lets move on.

What if I told you that right now, there is a door to your success, a door to your dreams and goals, just in hands reach and it is only up to you to open it. No catch. All you have to do is open the door and hit the ground running. You will have the goal in sight. You don’t need to know how you are going to get there, but you can work it out on the way. 

See my point?

  • Like that $100,000 you too can have the future you want, as long as you go get it. You can take a leap now, a head start and figure out the details on the way. 

“If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later!” – Richard Branson

Day #196: 15 Small Steps To Make You A Greater Success

I am the first to admit that when it comes to becoming highly successful, I want it now and quicker than ever. Why? I guess I just have this whole idea that with success, things will be better, even though things are already better. 

But with this aside, like anything great, it takes a series of smaller steps and time to get there.

So what can you do, what steps can you apply each day and every day to ensure that you’re being intentional with your time and spending it on your priorities. Incorporate these tips into your daily routine and watch your success soar!

But first you should always know:

Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try.

So here is what you can do:

  1. Define your priorities – daily
  2. Set your schedule for the day in advance
  3. Eat the frog – do whatever is the biggest challenge of the day first
  4. Be honest with the person in the mirror
  5. Set your own deadlines before the real ones
  6. Minimize distractions
  7. Pause – take a break regularly
  8. Plan backwards

    EXAMPLE:For example, say you want to lose 12 kgs. After you set an initial long-term goal of losing 12 kgs by one year from now, start planning backward and breaking the goal down into doable chunks. If you want to lose 12 kgs in one year, you’ll need to lose 0.25 kgs (1750 calories) each week. This is 250 calories per day. Many people have 3 meals and 2 snacks per day, which means you can decrease your intake by 50 calories every time you eat. That’s a totally doable goal! You’ve now taken a large, overwhelming aspiration and you broke it into very small, achievable daily goals.

     

  9. Write it down (goals, thoughts, worries, anything relevant to you and your day)
  10. Find a buddy – an accountability buddy
  11. Compare yourself to those you aspire to be like – fuel your determination
  12. Find a mentor! Be mentored!
  13. Learn to delegate and upwards too…

    “If you want to do a few small things right, do them yourself. If you want to do great things and make a big impact, learn to delegate.” – John C. Maxwell

  14. Choose who you hang with – be wise about it
  15. Read, read more and read some more again
There you have it! Do these things every day and you will quickly be on the path to wild success!

Day #195: 8 Valuable Actions When Your Day Goes Horribly Wrong

Murphy’s Law states – Whatever can happen, will happen. Therefore everyone can and will have a bad day. But how you handle it, react and make of it, is entirely up to you. It all comes down to the actions you take. 

What do you do, when things start to go horribly wrong? What actions do you take?

It is up to you to control how and what happens after something goes wrong. Sometimes, we can become so tied up in the worry and doubt, we forget that all we need to do is, step back think and react appropriately. How do you react?

  • Do you become so negative you infect anybody who comes into contact with you? Only to regret it or apologize later?
  • Do you over think the situation, say horrible things to yourself, beat yourself up and over exaggerate everything?
  • Do you fall into self-pity, self hate, turn off your phone and shut everybody out?

When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It’s all a matter of perspective. – Harvey Mackay

There are better ways to handle horrible days and the below eight actions will give you an idea of what they are. I wont elaborate on these, but I suggest you take some paper, jot these down and flesh out what these mean to you. You will most likely surprise yourself:

First, change your perspective.

Secondly, get out of the thinking zone.

Thirdly, look at what has gone well.

Fourthly, slap on some groovy tunes.

Fifth, avoid the negative people.

Sixth, be and get productive.

Seventh, do what always makes you happy.

Eighth, get out of the past!

Forget yesterday – it has already forgotten you. Don’t sweat tomorrow – you haven’t even met. Instead, open your eyes and your heart to a truly precious gift – today. – Steve Maraboli

Day #194: Success Is Just Another 10 Seconds Away

Success is usually placed on a pedestal high in our minds, like we would only dream of being there.

That isn’t success, that is your perception of what you think success is, Let me tell you something, which I hope doesn’t surprise you too much; Success happens everyday. Everyday you are a success. When you get out of bed, when you do what you do and achieve it to the desire you had planned it to be or greater. That is success.

But I get it, you want to be ‘all that’. Unfortunately, by nature we always want to be on the other side of the fence where the grass is greener. Well what if I told you that you can be. What if I told you that you too can do amazing things and see, feel and experience all that you think success is.

Aside from me already telling you that you are a SUCCESS…I think what you are looking for is your own stash of diamonds, or whatever your equivalent may be.

Recently I have been inspired by a simple yet almost genius mentality, known as the 10-second rule. The idea is that you can withstand 10 seconds of anything — just count to 10, and then restart again. It’s like a calming deep breath. To put it into perspective, running is a perfect example where this can be used, or at gym. When you are wanting to push to that extra 1 km, start counting to 10, having now accomplished that, do another 10 seconds.

But this can be applied to anything, but also if we take a step back and use this same mentality with everything in life, (maybe not using 10 seconds), but giving everything we are doing an extra shot of juice. Pushing through and challenging ourselves to go a little further. As one day, you may only need that extra 10 seconds to find that stash of diamonds, or finally achieve the result you have been working on for so long.

 “Champions keep playing until they get it right.” — Billie Jean King

Day #193: Monday’s Are Limited and Crucial

Time is ticking away. It is nearing closer to the end of the year but you still have time to make a choice for change. Having now started week 28, after today you have 24 Monday’s left of the year. Only 24.

These 24 days will and should be some of your most days important days, as these 24 days will highly influence the remaining overall 172 days of 2016.

Today is a chance to get ahead. Being the 28th Monday of the year, you have a chance to set a new routine, as chance to still get yourself on track, in progress for the greater you by the end of the year.

I am not going to say it will be easy, as it wont be. But what I can say, is that it will be worth it a million in the end.

All you need to do is… get up today, own today, set an attitude to the tone of ‘you can do this’ and go into the day willing, ready and all set to do your best, to be optimistic and to be willing to stretch yourself.

Now things won’t always go as planned, but adapt and accept then apply accordingly.

If you have a goal in mind of maybe you have a few? Well ask yourself ‘how much do you want this?’ Set your standard each week, of smaller checkpoints for the remaining Monday’s and go into each week to smash these small checkpoints before finally checking off your final goal.

If you’re interested, you’ll do what’s convenient; if you’re committed, you’ll do whatever it takes. ~ John Assaraf.

So get out there, get prepping and get working on the goal. It is your dream, so take action. If you are that interested in it – you will find a way.

Day #192: Accumulative Habits For Simple Living

There is an old saying to “keep it simple stupid” which further implies…

“If you can’t explain it to a six-year-old, you don’t understand it yourself.” ― Albert Einstein

Does this mean the key to success is as simple as keeping it simple? Well I can tell you that without simplicity, things will be harder than they need to be. Here are 7 points that you can apply to your life, in the search to making living that much simpler, while at the same time it will reflect a bigger impact to your life.

1. Wake Up Earlier

Here is a challenge for you. It isn’t that hard really that hard… but basically instead of waking up and rushing to work scattered and stressed, make the time to take your time… However long you’ll need. I personally get up and enjoy a massive and healthy breakfast, I read/review my blog and then make my way comfortably without rush and prepare for my day. Seems pretty simple to me…

2. Smaller Goals, More Manageable Tasks

Sometimes we have the right intentions with the biggest dreams or plans, but having these so big, we lose focus on the required. What I recommend is to narrow down your life into important factors and focus on these. As you grow you can expand the focus pool and as a bi-product so will your success.

3. It’s Okay To Say No

It is great to be able to say yes to new life opportunities, new experiences, falling in love, new challenges and so on. But this doesn’t mean you should. It is more than okay and also very smart to learn to say no when necessary. Say no to mediocre relationships, opportunities that will sway you from your current one, say no to pleasing when all it is doing is draining you, say no to giving into temptations of bad habits or old ways. You get the point. Sometimes no will be the very simple thing you have been missing.

4. Just Breathe

We are in a world surrounded by chaos and surrounded by 7 billion people who all have their own storms and fires to manage. It is easy to start crashing into one another and things tend to come out-of-order. Therefore, it is very important to just breathe and focus. Literally take 3 seconds to breathe in via your nose, then 3 seconds to release this via your mouth. It is easy to spend your time jumping from A to B, but before you start the chase again, take a moment, breathe, sit alone and think it through.

5. There Is A Bigger Picture – You’re Actually Quite Small

This is very simple. In any decision you’re making, ask yourself if it will matter in 5 years from now. There is no point stressing and finding yourself lost over something which will have changed or not even be relevant sooner than you know.

6. Communicate With Brevity

Communication even in the smallest of instances can change everything. Maybe you left things unsaid, or you’re too scared to speak up, but really these are simple things which are usually hindered or suppressed by our own complex emotions, issues and pride. Less is more in this fast paced world. Make what you are trying to say small and packaged, so those on the receiving end will catch it before they miss the point or value altogether.

7. Find Beauty In A World That Ain’t All That Pretty

Christopher Aiff said:

“The decision to be positive is not one that disregards or belittles the sadness that exists. It is rather a conscious choice to focus on the good and to cultivate happiness–genuine happiness. Happiness is not a limited resource. And when we devote our energy and time to trivial matters, and choose to stress over things that ultimately are insignificant. From that point, we perpetuate our own sadness, and we lose sight of the things that really make us happy and rationalize our way out of doing amazing things.”

Day #191: Why You Should Be Living As A Personal Brand

Your brand is who and what you are when all is stripped away. It is character. You are the controller, the dictator and the ultimatum of your own future. Aside from the variables, obstacles and parameters, which will always be random, but still of Murphy’s law. You only have yourself to either thank, or blame.

“Don’t live the same year 75 times and call it a life.” — Robin Sharma

I was recently reading an article relevant to the idea of; if only our own human brands existed and that there was nothing more than that to the business world. I mean look at it this way…

What if you could build a brand by living your purpose, setting goals, working hard and proving it. Then measure its success. Based on this, it would generate your income, your legacy, your social status and I guess who and what you are.

The article originally posted by John Buysee, goes on to explain his story and why and how he even came up with this whole idea. He further explains that to him, this is what a personal brand should look and feel like:

  1. Rooted in purpose
  2. Fueled by goals
  3. Supported through (habitual) action
  4. Proven with evidence

I wont go into the details, (read here for full article) but the whole point I am trying to get across is; you are you and you should always be you. 

If your personal persona/brand is to live a lifestyle of no work and all play, well than, good for you that you are able to do that and support your living. Or if you are someone who is solving problems day by day and running a small batch of subsidiaries hustles through the night, via your MacBook Pro, then this also is great.

There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. – Nelson Mandela

Being you, and selling who you are and what you a do, will always be better than trying to be something you’re not and trying to sell something you cannot even do. There will always be a need for your hobby/passion as someone else will have the very same interest, but they won’t have spent their 10,000 professional hours focused on that very thing. Hence why you will be successful, following your passion.

“Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don’t need to escape from.” – Seth Godin

So here is a challenge for you. What is your passion? Firstly find it. Secondly, advocate it. Thirdly, see if you can make something more out of it that just an escape or a way to relax.

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